Have you ever heard of the phrase that you are your only competition? Well as cliche and self absorbent as it sounds you really should be your own competition. Stop competing with people's lives and their opinions. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14). There's a lane just for you and all of your qualities, so work on you! While taking the time to better myself, I've learned five valuable lessons: Guard your mind, keep your joy, protect your environment, surround yourself with the truth, and be bold.
Guard Your Mind
I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet. - Mahatma Ghandi
The Word says to guard your heart. When you really start digging to understand that, you learn that it starts in your mind before it even seeps into your heart. In other words it's so important to watch what you allow to go through your mind and who you allow to pour into you, because they can get access to your heart.
Keep Your Joy
Ignore people who threaten your joy. Literally ignore them. Say nothing. Don't invite any parts of them into your space. - Alen Elle
You are not obligated to surround yourself with everyone. There are people who will attach themselves to you for the sole purpose of leeching off your joy. Be aware and be diligent about discerning spirits!
Protect Your Environment
Toxic people will pollute everything around them. Don't hesitate. FUMIGATE. - Mandy Hale
If you are anything like me you will genuinely love on people and try to help them. You want for people like you want for yourself. When people completely dog you out you will forgive them 70 times 70 and still be there like nothing happened with a pure heart and all..BUT Let me tell you this, some people are not assigned to you to help them. Some people genuinely don't want help and it's not your job to become more wrapped into their situation than they are! God will do the fixing! If they're toxic, run..run!! You can be there when they actually want you. Until then pray and give them distance.
Surround Yourself With The Truth
A true friend accepts who you are, but also helps you to become who you should be.
If you're trying to better yourself you need to surround yourself with people who will tell you the truth and truly care about you. Friends are nice, but it's only real when they will not only tell you the good stuff about yourself but also gut punch you and let you look deep within yourself. If you're friends don't edify you completely they're only crippling you!
Don't condemn lecture and criticize me unless you are 100% willing to allow me to do it back to you. If you can't take what you dish out, then keep your mouth shut.
This might sound harsh, but this is so important. You have to be bold enough to say those uncomfortable things, go against the grain, and even stand up for yourself. This quote is saying I respect myself enough to have healthy relationships. When you have a relationship that believes correction is one sided it turns into condemning and criticizing, which noone should do. We should correct and help not condemn and criticize! We can't be friends, work together, or be in any form of relationship if things are one sided. If you can correct me then you can respect my correction as well.
In order to better yourself you have to protect yourself. It's not about being self centered or selfish, but it's about being the purest form of who God created you to be. Don't allow people to pollute your mind or your environment. Be your own competition and fearlessly be you!