Choose Grace Over Perfection
What If I told you that perfection kills grace? Would you be willing to put your long to do list down? Would you be willing to take off the pressure to be something that you are not? Would you be willing to accept that you are flawed and need Jesus just as much as the next? Well it's true, perfection kills grace. As Christian women we have this belief that we have to balance all of these hats perfectly with a smile and a great attitude, but sometimes we completely forget our need for grace. Somehow we see grace as something offered to someone else and we begin to choose perfection over grace. Grace belongs to you too!
I remember when I became a mother and had all these ideas on what a perfect mother looked like. I thought I was a horrible mother, because I couldn't calm my baby down. I mean I was her mother, I should have been able to calm her, that's what mother's do! There I was completely new to parenthood putting all these pressures on myself instead of choosing grace.
Looking back on those first months with a newborn, I needed grace! I still need grace! Why? Because perfection parenthood (or anything else..) doesn’t exist! I am not perfect. Sometimes I pack her bag with everything and sometimes I forget a extra pair of clothes (the day she usually has an accident). Sometimes i'm really good at calming down a toddler with a tantrum and others days I look like the mother at Target holding her kid like a football, quickly exiting the store, as her kid flips out and cries. In either scenario, I am still a great mother!
You don't have to choose perfection! Choose grace over perfection. Perfection says my works saved me. Grace acknowledges that only through Jesus Christ am I able to achieve anything. Perfection says I am. Grace says God is I AM. Perfection leaves room for quick defeat. Grace says I will always get you through. Perfection blows up your errors. Grace keeps your flaws hidden. Perfection always reaches for the next. Grace keeps you in your season.
Sister, it's not through your perfection that you are saved. It is by God’s grace have you been saved through faith (Eph 2:8). We are all imperfect and Jesus saved us anyway. Jesus loves you rather you are a stay at home mom taking care of your kids or at work providing for your family. Jesus loves you even when you feel like you are not doing enough. Jesus loves you in the season you are in. He loves you even when you mess up. That's how beautiful grace is. He's not expecting you to be perfect. You don't have to balance the world. You don't have to do and get everything right. Jesus loves you anyway!
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. - Hebrews 4:16
I love this scripture so much, because it shows grace, one of the main privileges we got from Jesus choosing to die on the cross. Before Jesus we didn't have 24/7 access and the luxury of getting a pass on our mess-ups. Matter of fact only a high priest could come to the throne and if he sinned before going, he would be struck dead. How awesome is it to know that through the blood, we can have direct access to God anytime of the day! Grace is extended to you 24/7!
And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. - 2 Corinthians 12:9
The Lord is saying His grace is enough to get you through! Jesus did not come to save those who already had it right. He came to save the lost! The ones who didn’t have all the answers. The ones that kept messing up. The ones who are not sure how to be a mother. The one who is not sure how to love. The one who is hurt and unsure about how to forgive. The one who is struggling with submissiveness. The one who is literally running on empty and about to lose it. He is married to us and our imperfections.
It’s a design from the enemy to make us believe that we have to follow everything to perfection and never mess up in order to be saved. When we accept the lie, as soon as we fall short of perfection we enter into condemnation instead of repentance, grace, and mercy. Why? Because we are fooled into believing that if we are not perfect we are not a good Christian, or mother, or wife, or whatever your role may be. The enemy wants you to over extend yourself trying to be perfect, because he wants to kick you when you fall. He wants you to feel overwhelmed, sad, and longing for more. The enemy wants to steal your fulfillment. You see when you accept grace, you are filled, because you have faith that everything is going to work in your favor and you know you will get through. There is no pressure, you just try to do your best.
It’s a lie to believe that some people need more grace than others. We all can fall in the same capacity! We should allow God to perfect us and continue to strive. But know this, sometimes you are going to fall short. When you do, grace will be right there to guide you through.
As you go through your day, do it with grace. Don't allow the enemy to pressure you into perfection. Don't accept the highlight reels on your social media or from the people around you. When you feel like you are not doing enough, accept God's grace. Be the best version of you and leave the rest to God. We get through more with grace than without! Acknowledge your need for grace and accept Him into your life.